The Constructive Anger: Utilizing the Positive Side of Anger to Achieve Your Dream

Tell me what angry a man, I will tell you what he will conquer, tell me what a man is pleased with, I will tell you what will stay with him.

A man cannot succeed in what he was not angry about because anger is one of the ways of expressing strong emotions. If anger is well channeled, it can be one of the greatest agents that will assist the mind to attain and achieve great things. Most of the great men we know today all had this tool as one of their greatest motivators; this is because you will never change what you are not angry about.

History made it known that Nelson Mandela was angry at Apartheid in South Africa, social policy, or racial segregation involving political, economical, and legal discrimination against black people in their land. Martin Luther King was angry with segregation in America and Mahatma Gandhi was angry at the colonial rule in India. Even in Nigeria right now Muhammad Buhari was angry with corruption and striving against it. All these men change their situation for good simply using constructive anger.

The best way to positively channel anger into a rewarding cause is to be angry at the situation, not people.

“Angry with situation not people”

One simple way anger is positively rewarding is that many people will not make a change in their attitudes towards you or do things you want to be done until you are angry with them.

How To Channels Your Anger To Situation

Anger is a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented towards a real or supposed grievance. These are some conscious habits you need to observe when angry with the situation.

1. Watch Your Speech: When anger arises, we do use some hate speech which can worsen the situation we are angry with. We should focus on the situation rather than those who perpetrate it. Using hate speech signifies that our anger is directed at the people, not the situation, and that way we might cause a distraction that will make it difficult to conquer. 
2. Observe Your Actions: Action they say speak louder than words, our shows the type of feelings we have; is it to the people or the situation. Remember you cannot achieve a positive result with a negative action
3. Limitations: You will achieve your desire faster setting goals and limitations than not having one. Your aggression even in the situation should have a limit to avoid self-harming, so figure out the limitation and set your short and long-term goal.
4. Use a Reminding Symbol: Although, not compulsorily physical but better if it is. You should impress in your mind the outcome of the successfuloutcome. In his book "Billionaire Secrets to Success" Bill Bartman narrated how his sister-in-law motivated him with his negative comment and believe to go through college. She told him he couldn't amount to anything because he dropped out of college then. When he heard this, he wrote her name on a piece of paper with a BSc in front of it and stuck it to the wall of his room. So whenever he felt like sleeping or retiring for the day he just looks up to the name and read a little more until he graduated from college. 
5. Stop Complaining:  Complaining is just a big waste of your daily energy, complaining will do exactly zero in improving your effort towards achieving the result. Rather channel such energy to action.

Society subject to the negative side of anger more than the positive and those who result in using anger use it negatively with nothing positive to show for it rather regret most outcomes.

The reason anger earns such a negative reputation is because of the belief that anger results in violence which is not in most cases according to research. "Anger seems to be followed by aggression only about 10 percent of the time, and lots of aggression occurs without any anger," notes Howard Kassinove, Ph.D., co-author with R. Chip Tafrate, Ph.D., of "Anger Management: The Complete Treatment Guidebook for Practice" (Impact, 2002).

James Averill, Ph.D., a University of Massachusetts Amherst psychologist whose studies of everyday anger in the 1980s says “When you look at everyday episodes of anger as opposed to more dramatic ones, the results are usually positive." His research about the position of anger especially on the domestic front is positive. He found out that angry episodes helped strengthen relationships about half the time, according to a community sample.

Let me conclude this with a quote from Aristotle that says “The angry man is aiming at what he can attain, and the belief that you will attain your aim is pleasant.”